Olen Penhallurick: If you're so uncertain about your relationship that the issue of "what do we do if we break up" is crossing your mind, why are you moving in with him??
Darrel Stele: If your name is not on the lease you are not liable for payments. Nor to you have any rights to the house.
Bob Nakamoto: I don't think it is fair to expect any man to just 'know' what you want. If your expect him to remember your birthday, anniversary, etc. than you need to tell him. My parents have been married for 35 years and my dad is not a romantic type. The only reason he ever remembers those things is because my mother makes sure he knows in advance! I think that this could all be helped if you would just tell the man what you want. It is not fair to be angry at a person for doing or 'not doing' something wrong if you have not expressed to them that those things hurt you. Does he even know? And is not telling him that forgetting hurts a way for you to emotionally g! ive yourself an upper hand by making him the bad guy whether he would choose that role for himslef or not?...Show more
Rachell Meese: It's only a sin when a Romulan marries a Vulcan. Otherwise it's OK.
Chris Coggins: you need to go on with your life. he is doing no good for you. give your self some credit and move on with your life. he sounds like a real a$$ hole to me. just do what you got to do for yourself and forget about him. you deserve so much better. good luck.
Cassondra Vanholland: This is clearly a troll. If you love someone it doesn't matter if they are black white or purple
Vickie Sterbenz: interacial marriage was never a sin - God forbade the Jews to marry other races because theyworshipped other gods - people that were willing to serve God as a Jew were welcomed in Moses wife was Ethiopan David had Samaritan wives and so on and so forth - it wasn't about race it was about faith - this was a rule applied to Jews/believers not the who! le world...Show more
Michal Semple: We've been together ! more than 2.5 years. My partner recently started working shift-work (10 to 15 hours any given day, any given time) We used to get along really well, but now I find that we disagree a bit more than we used to. Naturally, his shift-work creates a big dent in our plans for the week. Anything we disagree about we quickly move on, and forget about it. - how often do you argue with your partner? Is it over petty, trivial issues? Is disagreeing healthy? - if you make up quickly, is that a good sign? - does shift-work cause a relationship to be more unsettled, and you may argue more? - even though you know your partner loves you, do they do things that make you question their love for you sometimes? - no matter how petty, if you were cheesed off - would you tell your partner how you feel?...Show more
Luana Carothers: You dont need a stupid man like him, move out
Autumn Vacio: It sounds really sad to want to divorce your handicap husband? But, hey it doesn't sound like a! marriage to begin with. Sounds like you are a caretaker. and I DO believe in vows "in sickness and in health" but, it's also sad that IF you stay with him you won't have fun or LIVE LIFE to its fullest. So, basically you have been Handicaped as well for all these years?For your own self sanity I think you know what to do.I would pray about it, this is really a tough question....Show more
Gilberto Cratin: its up to u. think wat would happen if u have a divorce...is it going to make ur life easy or worse
Sammy Kar: Has it been like this for all the 25 years you have been married? If so, I commend you for putting up with all of this. I don't understand why he spends half a year with his mother, he's married to you, not her. That's just weird. For you to have taken care of him for so long and he doesn't even have the respect to celebrate your anniversary or enjoy any other special occasions with you is just plain ignorant. I seriously can't believe you put up ! with this. I can see him spending a month out of the year with his mot! her to give you a break from having to care for him, but he's your husband! Time to move on, you have waisted enough time on this man and his crap. Your busness might just take off, perhaps find another job of some sort on the side till it does. Life is too short to waist it. You don't want to wake up one day an old woman full of regrets and a waisted life due to this man. It's your turn now, think about yourself. Good luck....Show more
Christopher Calcano: I think many of us are in the same situation. A spouse is working too many hours definitely make a dent in you're relationship because you hardly see him and bonding time is going to suffer. My best advise to you from a person who's been there is to communicate and support your spouse. They're working very hard and don't want yo come home to an argument. If you love him and chose to be w him you need to create an environment that's friendly and open arms. I know it's difficult because as a woman or man we li! ke to spend time with the one you love. But sometimes they can't be there. Think of the many women or men having their spouses in Iraq. Sad isn't it? Well it's good that you guys argue and made up. Don't keep things inside because they'll fester into bigger problems later on. You need to find some activities to do for yourself. Best of luck.
Clare Hoard: As of today, you need to start operating on brain power and NOT emotional power. Plan to get a divorce, but not now. Do it on your terms when it is best for you! Wait until your business starts to generate an income, THEN, plan on moving, not before. Try to look forward to the times when he's away and focus on yourself. Forget about the gifts and cards!! You'll get plenty of gifts and cards from your next husband, who will be 10 times better and who you will be totally in love with....Show more
Pam Rampadarat: My husband does shift work, and it can be hard to adjust to. It's hard for meal times and sleep ! times so you have to make allowances as they get cranky and unreasonabl! e, most of the time you have to let it slide as the shifts vary and they behave as a baby. It's not his fault, but it is hard to put up with, I don't mean to sound like a subservient wife, but make sure he has food and keep out of his way. I flip him the bird while his back is turned! Lol! If he is working so hard he does love you, that's why he works so hard!...Show more
Lu Snide: Divorce the bu$$head. You can do better.
Letitia Bigelow: Why does he spend all his time with Her, and was he always disabled? If you're happier without him-yes, leave. I think so because when he's not around, you feel you can be yourself. I wish these were high school essay questions. How come we never had questions like this in high school and got marks for it?
Randal Deyarmond: I'm listed as an occupant with my parents place, but not liable for rent.You are not and will not be liable if he can't pay. You are somewhat protected if he tries throw you out if you are listed as! an occupant and can prove you contribute to the household. And please get your contract with him concerning who's paying what in writing and notarized!
Berry Gilmore: And he won't talk about ANYTHING! I have no idea of what he thinks. He's been diagnosed as passive aggressive.
Derrick Kloke: Divorce is not always the right answer but you need to have more communication with him. Ask him why your birthday and anniversaries aren't special to him if your his wife. And this whole thing with his mom. She is no longer the women in his life. YOU ARE! Don't let someone tell you, you can't do nothing without them that is so disrespectful. You get to the bottom of this and you tell him that he needs to change, he needs to show you that he loves you or else. If that doesn't work out, where there's a will there's a way, Don't waste your life on someone who isn't going to treat you like a queen....Show more
Clement Viscarro: And please dont express your worldviews o! n me please!I'm planning on moving with my boyfriend and we made a verb! al agreement about how finances will be handled. He will be paying for the entire rent and i will contribute to other bills. I dont want to be liable for the rent because im not paying the rent, but if he list me as an occupant that will be living with him im i protected from getting kicked out or do i have legal rights to live there according to the terms of the lease. Also as an occupant im a liable for the rent payments if something were to happen to him? I'm just trying to be safe and protect myself before i make a life changing decision!...Show more
Carlton Lastrapes: well when a couple stops arguing they stop caring, but it depends on the type of arguments. me and my wife argue quite a bit but we very rarely argue on major things, mostly if i miss the toilet bowl and forget to wipe it up, or i don't tell our son off for doing the same thing. But my mantra is if an argument can't be finished by the time you go to sleep then its a biggie, i never like to go to sle! ep angry with my wife or vice versa, so we make an effort to resolve things before bed time (and then make up sex...). But yes shift work will cause more strain, you need your partner to be there for you and if he works long and unsettling hours it will throw you off as well. But you should always air your feelings because if not they will just get worse and worse and then you will have enough finally explode with all this anger and it will a lot worse than if you had mentioned it when it happened. My advice ? write down how you felt about something he has done in a diary and then when he gets home tell him about it. I never really argue when im angry because things get said out of anger and it makes life a lot worse. Talk about the problems calmly and after you have had time to consider things, my wife for instance does go OTT about little things and she usually waits a day before mentioning something because when she used to just have an argument straight away the next da! y she would think 'oh i went a bit overboard with that'.But don't forge! t it wont be easy for him doing those shifts and it will probably make him more on edge too, so he should really wait until he is calm before initiating an argument. but its easier said than done.
Jamika Gregorio: Yes, he does know it hurts me about my birthday, anniversary, & Christmas. Yes, he does know it hurts me that he spends all his holidays with his Sweetheart. Yes, he does know it hurts me when he displays his family's birthday cards to him, but not mine. I guess why I asked was to actually see some of this stuff in black and white, and to see what others say. When he's gone half the year I do have the house to myself. If we divorce we'll lose the house. So am I cutting off my nose to spite myself? Should I just put up with it and try to get my second career built. Or will staying and being dissed the way I am affect me too much detrimentally that I'll never get back on my feet?...Show more
Jodie Capella: I think its important to let the other pers! on know how you feel. But think about it before you start shouting. (not that you are shouting.. just a figure of speech). Just give it some time to think things over and ask yourself "am I being too petty" and if in a couple of hours you still feel this way then its probably a good thing to bring up.Yes I think disagreeing is healthy.. no two people can get along 100 percent of the time.Not sure about "shift work".. frankly never heard of it so therefore I cannot answer that one. However I can see if you both work kinda the same schedule day to day and once in a while it changes how that would affect a relationship.Yes I think its normal for everyone to have that doubt (questionable) feeling that makes us wonder about their love for us. Simply because there is no guarantee. Human feelings are not guaranteed.
Virgilio Echter: the fast answer to the biggest area of your question, in my opinion, is definite it somewhat does sound unfavorable of you. in spite of th! e incontrovertible fact that, i'm a guy and which will possibly disqual! ify me or, a minimum of, wreck my credibility once you're weighing up the solutions which you get. I honestly do no longer choose to return for the period of as unkind yet you supply the impact of being some thing of a administration freak. perhaps you have been an in simple terms newborn, or maybe you're so insecure or jealous and can't stay with the belief of his interest being someplace else or divided. i ought to shrink you some slack if the accomodation substitute right into a joint assets and his kinfolk have been intruding there, or if it substitute into his valueless acquaintances that have been bothering you. i think of which you have a decision and that's the two to communicate moving with him right into a joint assets and set some floor regulations, or flow on. i individually sympathise which contain your boyfriend because of the fact it somewhat is bigoted to place your insecurities or irrationalities on him. i think which you have positioned this guy under unwa! rrented tension and whether he substitute into to wave a magic wand, alienate his kinfolk and flow, with you, to a sparkling region, you will locate some thing else to annoy you. i think of you will desire to ideally seek for medical care to locate why you sense the way you do in the past you wreck his existence and alienate all people....Show more
Clemmie Burkleo: Are you really comparing socks to humans? C'mon. Get real.
Marcelina Schossow: I believe they do look the same. two eyes, one nose, one mouth, two arms, two legs. Different sexual parts, but that is because it was said for every one to go forth and fill the earth with like kind. So a dog is with a dog, a cat with a cat, a man with a woman, it doesn't say a thing about color.
Sena Highman: Shouldn't people look as similar as possible when getting married?...not like mismatched socks.
Elinore Schlinker: Um I don't know what religion you are, but in mine no. I know some extremist may twist th! e words of the bible around to argue that point, but God speaks of love! and acceptance so I doubt the loving God I have faith in would accept any intolerance I have based on skin/nationality and/or origin.
Christy Tirabassi: If it was then many of us would be criminals. Be precise, there is NO RACE in the world. DNA is remarkably the same. There are a few, very few physical differences but we are probably 99% the same. this probably hurts the feelings of racial superiority types but the science is NOT with you.
Gale Hartt: Why does your husband need to spend half the year with his mother?Your relationship has drifted apart and the only thing holding it is financial stability, cost your losses and move on.
Elli Esaw: If he convinced you that you cannot survive without him, he is trying to control you. And usually, when people divorce, they get 50%. So really, wouldn't you be on an even playing field? Tell him to go jump in the lake. You deserve a man who knows how to treat a woman. But first, you need to go do whatever you wan! t to do..without him!
Lahoma Beadell: If you do not sign the lease, you are not liable. If he does not pay the rent, both of you get kicked out. If he pays the rent and doesn't want you anymore, you alone get kicked out. Make sure you have 'vex' money.
Francisco Schonhardt: If you are not happy in a marriage then do what u gotta do and GET OUT OF IT! Disabled or not if u feel u could do better by all means GO FOR IT!
Terresa Tsasie: SIN is something people made up to guilt trip people. There is no such true SIN, just things other people don't like.
Thomas Riner: It seems that any time there is a big change in one of our lives that there is an adjustment period that goes with it in our relationship as well. When a large part of someones routine is upset, the couple has to each learn where they fit inside of this scenario. It can cause arguments or bickering - this is normal....you guys are adjusting to his work schedule.
Patrica Loertsch! er: I think you will be better without him. An unhappy marriage for 25! years is making you weak. You said that you started your own business which has proved that you are strong enough to plan your own future. Be strong! You can do it by youself.
Clinton Migliori: just surfin.......... this is how a lot of people get put out on there a$$. your supposed to have a plan its called a backup, Yeah a lot of women were sure that their husband wouldn't cheat on them but oh boy was she wrong
Coleen Carignan: That is the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
Ramona Pago: I feel like you should leave him. You would be so much happier without him. It is to weird that he wants to spend so much time with his mother. You deserve better for yourself.
Tana Dumoulin: When I moved into my boyfriends house he wasn't renting, he owns his home but I think the same is kind of true here as far as obligation. I pay for half of everything that involves me. If I were you I would pay half the rent but that doesn't mean you need to be on the lease.! I would pay half the food, utilities, cable, phone, internet. Half and half. If you break up in the future then you will only be out what you would have been out anyway if you would have had your own place. You would be paying one hundred percent of all bills if you didn't live with him so your still coming out pretty darn good....Show more
Granville Stray: Nah but being racist is a sin.
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